from-empathy-to-compassionFinding Relief in Your Empathic Abilities


“How do I turn it off?”

This is the number one question that brings people to me and my website.

The overwhelm of feeling the emotions of others builds and builds, leaving empaths to feel helpless and desperate, hoping to find any answer to simply turn it off and find some reprieve.

It’s exhausting and heavy and draining and it is no wonder that we spend so much time just trying to stop it.  To feel a life of even emotions where we are in control every moment of the day.  It sounds like a pipe dream to many, but it is possible. How?

By turning empathy into compassion.

While these two terms may sound synonymous, they are actually dramatically different.  Empathy is feeling the emotions of another.  While most experience empathy as a piece of sympathy, able to consciously put themselves in the situation of another, empaths do this involuntarily, all day, every day, in every situation.  The emotions of another cause them to shift their own emotional energy, even without their consent.

Empathy leaves us feeling emotions we would rather not feel.  The struggles of another bring down our energy, leaving us feeling sluggish, heavy, or even crippled.  We long to help and heal, but feel too heavily the weight of another to offer much assistance.

Compassion, in contrast to empathy, is feeling your own emotions while offering sympathy to another.

Compassion is the basis from which we are able to aid those who are in need.  Offer a shoulder to cry on, give resources and time, and make plans of action to help those suffering around us.  Compassion keeps us in control of both our emotions and our situation.

Empathy is crippling.  Compassion is empowering.

When an empath absorbs the emotions of another in despair, their need to help comes from a desperation to end the pain.  The steps they take are then made less effective and both parties suffer together, hoping for a cure to emerge from anywhere.

However, when able to remain in control of their emotions, deciding to feel powerful, joyful, and especially hopeful, the empath can now look at those suffering and offer them compassion from a place where they are able to assist.  They can look at another’s suffering and choose to feel positively.  From this space, they can create the very cure they would normally long for.

Compassion allows the empath to remain elevated, lifting up those around them, instead of emotionally falling down the trail of despair.

“How do I turn it off?”

You make the choice to choose compassion over empathy.  You use your empathic abilities to feel how they are feeling greater than anyone else around you, then you make a choice to not feel the same way.  You make a choice to feel good – to feel joy and hope – and from there you can be the help they need.

There is nothing wrong with being an empath.  Your abilities allow you to recognize where compassion is needed the most.  Recognize the empathy, acknowledge the emotions, and allow yourself to release them in order to fill yourself with the empowerment of compassion.

If you are struggling with how to release the emotions of others, I cover this and more in the Take Back Your Emotions program.  Not only will you better learn how to cope with your empathic abilities, but also grow in your gifts to help those around you.